Imperfection > Perfection

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Disclaimer: This whole blog itself aren't for those who may cringe when reading anything with grammatical errors. Sadly I suffer from Dysgraphia Dyslexia and there's nothing I can do about it. When I read things, they seem correct to me but really aren't. So best you stop here.

As days or years go by, outer beauty seems to be more and more significant to every girls/guys life. I won't sit here and be like "No looks don't matter" Because I personally believe it does, I think the way you present yourself matters, the way you approach and the way you look matters (Even our beloved Prophet Muhammed (s.a.w.s) always looked his best before he stepped out of the house) but only to a certain extent. 

One who keeps thinking that their looks will get them places and far, whilst their hearts are as black as it is at night then they really need to think again. 

We all sit down and think oh wish I had this and this and that. Even myself some certain parts of my life/looks I wish I could change but I've realised this is my stupidity talking, it's my un-gratefulness towards Allah (SWT) He has given me so much yet I want more and for what? To please the mankind on this planet who have no authority over my life? Who won't help me in the hereafter? So I started to be grateful towards most things in life, when I was at my lowest point in the business where I wanted to pack-up and be like I quit and I did but I only quit *Wedding Photography* I came to my senses that for past 6 years I've been working towards building my 'empire' that just because of few people I should do this, am I weak? No. I wasn't weak, I was just low. 

Even if you look properly at my Instagram and Facebook, before I never used to post photo's of myself just my work but Alhamdulillah I gained confidence to do it and let anyone say anything. For instance, my eyebrows bothers a lot of people... Don't know why but it does. For me it's a personal reason I don't pluck but to people because of my bushy eyebrows I'm not "Pretty" or because I'm not fair "I won't be chosen" or the fact I'm a bit on the + size I look like a hippo. 

I've tend to realise people only "like" or "love" girls who are what the society seems to think is perfect. How cruel is this world? You are born the way you are, the way Allah (SWT) has made you, yet your not accepted, however never forget the beauty of our Lord: No matter how imperfect you think you are, you are as beautiful as Allah (SWT) has made you and he will accept you no matter how many sins you commit as long as you repent deeply. 

A lot of girls feel insecure about the way they dress, look or even come across. I'd advise the following: (purely on the basis I did this) 

-Learn to love yourself, remember if you don't love yourself how can anyone else. E.g. When a shopkeeper sells stuff if he/she doesn't love the item their selling how can they convince anyone they should buy it? Even if you don't love yourself 100% learn to, sometimes act because you see when you "act" you end up doing/being that 

-Try not to give to pineapples about what people say, this world is full of good and bad. What we may think is good it maybe bad.... But doesn't mean you change due to people. Hell to the no. You be who you are and be accepted for who you are! 

-Only listen to opinions of those you value. We tend to care what 'others' say about us, when in fact it should be what our family and friends say because they will be your close ones thats knows most personal stuff about you and what suits you, what makes you happy etc 

-Alhumdulilah, I am the way I have always been. Honestly I've not changed, my childhood friends and family can vouch for that. I've always been like this and In'sha'allah plan to because I have amazing people around me so I must be doing something right? I have never tried to be like anyone else (Except Wendy from My Parents are Aliens and Lizzie McGuire...Lol) Some people may think you are trying to be them because suddenly you have become friends and things you do is similar and if they attack you on this basis then just ignore, or show them how you were like that before and maybe you both have very similar taste or personality (I got accused of copying someone on the way I pose....! Silly but happens, I ignored because I always pose with my arms dangling down and legs cross...) 

Alhamdulillah I done the above and I can only say I feel great. I know sometimes on my social media I'll be like I'm fat/ugh look at me and etc but deep down inside I am so grateful with what Allah (SWT) has given me. His made me the way he knows I'll be happy. His made me content with life. Most importantly his made me the way he would like me to be on the day of judgement. 

To evaluate what the title of the post means is that you may think your Imperfect but really you are perfect in the eyes of Allah (SWT) and what's more greater than that? 

Hope this blog post was helpful and if you need help with anything please email: hello@thatpersonalphotographer.com I know I am not inspirational nor am I anything special but if I can help even a tiny bit in improving your weakness in'sha'allah I will 


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