Online Marriage

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As most of you know online dating/marriage has become more popular as the days have gone by, however even now it's frowned upon by people, particularly young adults (21-29) For me I find it weird because I have for it and also against so in the middle however as days go by I am going towards more for it. 

Now What is Online Marriage? Well my title may not exactly be the right title for the actual content of this blog but you will understand my jist in a bit. 

These days a lot of people are in relationship so for those who aren't and are ready to get married I think where do they go? I mean yes there is a choice of Arrange marriages but some people just want to either know the person they are getting married to or fall in love. Arrange marriage isn't for all and it's about time the society accepts this. Some arrange marriages are done with mutual agreement and in no way am I saying they will be unhappy marriage but for those marriages who are married for the sake of society and pride of the parents/guardians it's utterly wrong because even in Islam we should get to know our future spouse (Within the boundaries of Islam of course) But I don't want to talk about this topic in regards to Islam, so if I say anything against Islam please don't get pissed off because this topic has no relation to my religious views. 

For Online Marriage: Well like mentioned before not many people are out there looking to get married and if they are well their hidden! Places like Shaadi.com and Singlemuslim.com etc is a good place to meet someone who's going through the same thing as you, where you get to choose if you want to get to know them on a different level, where you can connect with them personally without the whole weight of families being involved and waiting for your response. People look down at these sort of ideas and automatically assume "Desperate people" are on these sites, or you have to be 30 and above. Then I think, if people can randomly add/get to know people via Facebook, Instagram and Twitter what difference are these marital sites? I mean if anything these are better because two people will be getting to know each other for the sake of marriage and not just date for a very long time. It really bugs me when I ask friends/acquaintances (I know everyone entitled to their own opinion!) but when they have a quick reply with a snigger "Err, No thanks I am not that desperate" I just quickly think, if it's okay to meet via all these social media sites whats marital sites any different. It annoys me more when I know the person and they have met/dated people via FB or IG. 

I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I completely respect it but before you say a comment like that think about it. 

Against Online Marriage: Well even though is all okay and that, it's also very dangerous. Some people on that website isn't that serious, nor are they telling the whole truth or worse fact their dangerous. This is what scares some people and I with it. A friend of mine spoke to a guy when she showed her sister the photo her sister knew who he was and guess what he was married with kids! So some people are really not serious so it is really important for you to do 100% research before meeting or getting to know. Don't be shy to share with anyone honestly it's better if few people know because Allah Forbid but if anything happens to you and no ones know where and what. That's why always share information with one close person. 

Alhumdulilah we all have good judgement of characters and learning more by meeting and communicating with people but sometimes we need to sit back and think do we really know them? 

My Madre has always said: "You never know anyone till you eat on the same dinner table with them and sleep under the same roof" I 100% agree with this. 

What do you think? If I've posted this via my Social Media sites please do comment me your thoughts and don't be afraid to say it. 

*Please excuse any spelling/sentence mistakes* 

-Sheuly Begum -